There's no progress on my issues with Mia. She's still very negative, argumentative and I've reached my limit. Her dog has been sick with a abscess on his neck that has been bleeding and oozing for weeks now. For weeks I've been nursing his wounds and giving him meds and stressing myself out over it. She is clueless to his condition and could care less about this animal. Why??? Not once has she called or offer help or to check in on him. I called her tonight to tell her he needs to see a vet again because he's not getting better. She had nothing but attitude and acted like she was to busy to deal with him. When I insist on him seeing a vet tomorrow she said with attitude "I'll call the vet but I can't take him I have to work". When I told her not burden Al because I was about to tell her "I'm off work tomorrow and I'll take him." she cut me off and began to yelled at me saying "I'm going to tell him ANA that's his dog... Blah blah blah (No its not, its her dog she bought him) " I said to her, "OK Tok is HIS dog now?" She said "welllllll he's both our dog, we are engaged still and he's needs to know, and I'm going to tell him!" ..... Ah I see!!! My hands start to shake and I just wanted to cry and scream but I calmly say "well then tomorrow I want you to come get your dog and find him a home and take care of him. You both need to figure it out." Her only response was "he'll be put in a kennel then" I said "so be it, he's your guy's dog do what you gotta do" she said "YES MA'AM" and hung up.
What am I suppose to do about her? I mean, she practically told me to piss off.
I'm scared because Al is at critical phase right now. He's past the one day at a time thing and is now buried deep in the realities of his unfinished business. Now that my son is clean he can see and feels the sense of urgency with his growing list of "todo's" and the "to deal" with things. I can see it in his eyes he's overwhelmed and unsure. Now for us non addicts life's bullshit is hard enough to deal with but for someone like Al its overwhelming and his first instinct it's numb the pain and the madness.
I have to let her go. It's hurting my heart and I can no longer fake my tolerance. Its just not a healthy situation anymore. And now you can bet my relationship with my son will back in limbo because of it!